Showing posts with label funeral. Show all posts
Showing posts with label funeral. Show all posts

Saturday, July 26, 2014

Brad

Last September (2013), we lost my cousin Brad in a motorcycle accident. He was young and left 8 beautiful children, with a ninth on the way. I can barely think on the pain it caused me then, so I will put here only what I entered into my journal on the day of his funeral:

The tears found their way. My heart ached. It's painful and maddening. So many things I want to express about the love for Brad and the anger I feel from my toes for whoever it is pulling the strings to these life changes. Could God really pull a loving father from his children?
This is what I'll say. I love and will miss a truly genuine soul. I'm glad I saw his spark while it was here. I'm glad he didn't pass me by unnoticed. He was quiet and many didn't see him. He didn't demand attention and yet he was so incredible a soul with a heart of gold that shone more bright, that all they had to do was look.
My last memory of him was on the boat while we were on the lake in June. I didn't take a photo. I've thought about that decision many times. But we spoke about old times and future times. How could we know?
I love you Brad! We will forever miss you from our family events and future memories. We will toast to your memory always! Take your rest. Be with your little Cowboy. Give him your wisdom and love, then watch over them all from where you are. And most of all, I hope you have a way to understand what we cannot: the why.



Tuesday, September 13, 2011

Uncle Keith

My Grand Uncle Keith passed away this past week. I was sad to hear the news as he is my all time favorite grand uncle.
As I reflected on my memories of him I was happy that I have great ones. As I've gotten older, I haven't seen him as much as I did as a child.
The funeral was the single best funeral I have ever been to. It was exactly as a funeral should be: about the person who passed away....sharing happy, funny and sad memories. It left us all feeling that we had been in a presence of a truly great man all of our lives.
My second cousins shared the pulpit together and shared their stories and memories. Many stories I've heard before, but it's been so long I'd forgotten. I learned a lot about him and my grandfather (like: they were in the first group of the Utah National Guard.)
As a young girl I remember asking Uncle Keith about Pearl Harbor for a report. I didn't remember the details because I'd been a kid and that kind of thing didn't really sink in for someone my age. Now that I'm older, I see the significance of his experience.
He was the first person in 1940 to enroll in the navy from Utah. He was 17 years old. On December 7, he was stationed on the US Tennessee and he was on the harbor that morning, in training. He and his classmates had heard an explosion and assumed it was an oil tanker nearby and they went out of the front of the building. There was nothing there to indicate an explosion. Then they heard a second explosion and realized it was on the other side of the building...where the ships were. He and the others ran through the building and when they came out they saw the sky filled with planes.
My second cousin, Ken, said that my uncle never shared his emotions or many of the events that followed that moment. As it did for the entire United States, that day changed everything. That day changed my uncle's life...as it would.
When he came back to SLC, he married Aunt Velma.
After my cousins spoke, their kids shared their own experiences. My cousin Tom shared a poem that my uncle used to share. He'd had to memorize it as a kid as a punishment in school. I had forgotten all about it until Tom read it. And what I remembered is sitting at The Lake (Echo) around the camp fire while he told us the memorized poem:


The Little Orphan Annie
James Whitcomb Riley
Little Orphan Annie's come to my house to stay.
To wash the cups and saucers up and brush the crumbs away.
To shoo the chickens from the porch and dust the hearth and sweep,
and make the fire and bake the bread to earn her board and keep.
While all us other children, when the supper things is done,
we sit around the kitchen fire and has the mostest fun,
a listening to the witch tales that Annie tells about
and the goblins will get ya if ya don't watch out!

Once there was a little boy who wouldn't say his prayers,
and when he went to bed at night away up stairs,
his mammy heard him holler and his daddy heard him bawl,
and when they turned the covers down,
he wasn't there at all!
They searched him in the attic room
and cubby hole and press
and even up the chimney flu and every wheres, I guess,
but all they ever found of him was just his pants and round-abouts
and the goblins will get ya if ya don't watch out!!

Once there was a little girl who always laughed and grinned
and made fun of everyone, of all her blood and kin,
and once when there was company and old folks was there,
she mocked them and she shocked them and said, she didn't care.
And just as she turned on her heels and to go and run and hide,
there was two great big black things a standing by her side.
They snatched her through the ceiling fore she knew what shes about,
and the goblins will get ya if ya don't watch out!!

When the night is dark and scary,
and the moon is full and creatures are a flying and the wind goes Whoooooooooo,
you better mind your parents and your teachers fond and dear,
and cherish them that loves ya, and dry the orphans tears
and help the poor and needy ones that cluster all about
,
or the goblins will get ya if ya don't watch out!!!

Those stinkin' goblins scared me to death! LOL!

What I remember about my Uncle Keith and Aunt Velma is that at the lake, we were always welcome at their fire, to roast their marshmallows, and chat with them about anything no matter how insignificant it would be for an adult to hear a child talk about their little lives.
I also remember going their house on Christmas and admiring their cookoo clock! I loved that clock!

Saturday, March 8, 2008

George's Funeral

Camp Williams
At 4:25 a.m. on February 28, 2008, Eric's grandpa (Pop) passed away. He was diagnosed with Alzheimer's not long after Eric and I started dating. The whole of my relationship with Eric, I have not seen George as he was prior to this terrible diagnosis.
Eric and I have joked that we are Romeo and Juliet in a Lisonbee and Irwin saga. Irwin Trucking competed for many of the same jobs as did Lisonbee Trucking (when it was around). When Eric and I first started dating, each of our families reacted the same way when we mentioned our last names: "Irwin! as in Irwin Trucking!?" "Lisonbee, as in Lisonbee trucking!?"
After a week of planning and travel arranging, the funeral was held on Friday (3/7/08) - it was cold and brisk, yet sunny and bright. George was burried at Camp Williams (which is a forever long drive out of Salt Lake).
It sounds silly, and maybe odd, but I was excited to see a military honors funeral - I'd never seen one (except on TV). Eric's cousins: Dusty and Darrell (who are in the Marines) and Ryan (who is in the Navy) were dressed in their formal uniforms and looked very nice.
Ryan's remarks at the funeral were most touching. He talked about George's early life and how rough it was. What stuck me most (and by the gasps and sobs in the audience, I wasn't alone) was what most of us want: for our parents to be proud of what we've become. Ryan spoke of George's concern for making his father proud.
Camp Williams
At the interment, I was touched as taps was played, the flag was folded and the flags were presented to George's children. I had held it together pretty well until I saw Eric - he presented the flag to his dad and had seen the look in his dad's eyes and he (Eric) faltered and it broke my heart. Just as it was coming to an end, the three trucks from Irwin Trucking that had come to Camp Williams all honked their horns as a final salute and farewell to George.
I found that I was deeply touched by the family which claims little emotions as they expressed their own love and honor to their father and grandfather.